It is good that Kobana is talking to his son.
It’s really good to talk to your kids about sexuality but I’m not sure Kobana is going about it the right way. Does Kobana want him to go back home because he is worried about the possibility of his son being gay? He needs learn to understand and accept his son regardless of his sexuality.
August 5th, 2008 at 1:04 am
Kobana and the son are in two [different] cultural worlds the father still has some african values which the son does not understand. the father has to be tactiful and try and persuade the son.its no use talking of african values in peckham.however its good the father is trying but he really needs to change his approach in order to be listened.I just showed my son the video and we all laughed and in the process he has learned a lot
April 10th, 2009 at 12:02 pm
Mr Kobana has been living here before his boy was born to life. the son should listen to his Dad more.
The education of underestimating african values is a wrong approach. Africa is full of wisdom and very good life values.
Our children learn new stuffs at school and some of it is completely against our african way of life.
Barack Obama did not forget that he was from African background. He visited his village and knew where his father came from. He has a better idea of how to live in america where everything is allowed.
We need to prepare our sons and daughters to take their cultures seriously. if they are well prepared then they can cope well in the multicultural UK. If we give them nothing then they are not going to be african anymore but will only look african and then the police and media will still call them african in crime scenes.
African boys need schools but these schools must allow parents to educate their boys of the way african boys look after their sexuality i.e try hard to have sex after marriage and marriage sooner that help them to be more responsible
May 21st, 2009 at 5:00 pm
I completely agree with the comment taken on 10/4/09.
We have the duty as African fathers of preparing our sons in their new sexual health and give them responsibility. Sexual Health without responsibility is a source of many problems like early pregnency when both boys and girls are not prepared at all, all these STI’s these days, poor school results etc.
HIV comes with that irresponsibility sometimes i.e not being aware of using condoms and thinking HIV is only for adults. We see young people with HIV now and again so it is very very important to realise that there is no vaccine , or cure so far
So boys look after yourselves before it is too late.
Go back to our African Values is the right thing and give our boys home responsibility, DIYs, homework etc as the emptiness and the UK TV culture can be very wrong if no supervision is applied to see what children are watching. Sex is everywhere and everyone wish to look sexy and half naked but this affect our children who then forget that it should not be that. Marriage is for life and that has to be at the right time. We must explain our children to respect